{"id":21,"date":"2018-04-08T22:04:50","date_gmt":"2018-04-08T22:04:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/?page_id=21"},"modified":"2018-05-04T02:16:13","modified_gmt":"2018-05-04T02:16:13","slug":"train-wreak","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/train-wreak\/","title":{"rendered":"Part 7: Train Wreak – It’s Always Going To Be Harder Than You Imagine"},"content":{"rendered":"

It was around month three that everything began to go to shit. <\/span><\/p>\n

Carl called me in a panic. <\/span><\/p>\n

They had interviewed a candidate that was way more qualified than Carl and be all accounts this guy would be an outstanding addition to the team. <\/span><\/p>\n

Carl was beside himself. Self-doubt and fear started to creep back in. I could hear the defeat in his voice…<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201dWell, I gave it my best\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n

“I can\u2019t be upset if they give the job to this guy. According to Ed, he is already an exceptional Director of Tech at another company.”<\/span><\/p>\n

“I mean, how can I compete with that?'”<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

“Carl,” I said. “Calm down.”<\/span><\/p>\n

“I want you to picture for a moment you sitting behind Terry’s desk. Now imagine you open your desk drawer and take out your business card.\u00a0 Then you get up from behind the desk walk outside your office and close the door. Tell me, Carl,\u00a0what’s written below your name on both the business card and office door?”<\/span><\/p>\n

“Director of Technology,” Carl replied.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

“Exactly!” I said. ” That’s who you are and where you will be in a few weeks.” <\/span><\/p>\n

“You just<\/span>\u00a0need to stay calm, focus and trust in your vision.”<\/span><\/p>\n

Carl began to Calm down and regain his composure. We had practiced this little routine several times in the past weeks, and it works amazingly well to anchor and refocus Carl every time.<\/p>\n

I also pointed out to Carl that the company could not make an offer to this guy without interviewing him and the one other internal candidate. <\/span><\/p>\n

The Interview<\/span><\/h3>\n

The interview was another issue. Carl was a\u00a0bag of nerves, whenever that topic came up. And I had the feeling he was stalling. <\/span><\/p>\n

But finally, he scheduled it for n<\/span>ext week. <\/span><\/p>\n

Like everything else, we prepared for the Interview itself by “beginning with the end in mind.”<\/i>. That’s the beauty of this Habit. You can apply it (and it works) on multiple levels from the Strategic down to the tactical.<\/span><\/p>\n

I finally thought we were ready. <\/span><\/p>\n

On the day of the interview… f&*king Carl texted to tell me that he called in sick and asked to reschedule.<\/strong> <\/span><\/p>\n

I could not believe\u00a0it!!<\/span><\/p>\n

“SICK?… is that what they’re calling nerves and self-doubt these days,” I said to myself.<\/span><\/p>\n

But I was wrong. <\/span><\/p>\n

When we finally got on the phone, Carl was not Nervous. He was Pissed. <\/span><\/p>\n

It was Sue.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

While Sue wanted Carl to advance in his career, she was worried that this would only result in her seeing less of him. The girls already complained that Carl hardly ever spends any time with them anymore.<\/span><\/p>\n

The last four weeks was the worst for Sue in particular.\u00a0 As Carl further hunkered down to layout his battle plan he sacrificed even more weekends and night.\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\n