{"id":17,"date":"2018-04-08T20:59:38","date_gmt":"2018-04-08T20:59:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/?page_id=17"},"modified":"2018-04-29T20:35:11","modified_gmt":"2018-04-29T20:35:11","slug":"the-secret-that-changed-everything-p6","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/the-secret-that-changed-everything-p6\/","title":{"rendered":"PART 5: The Secrets That Changed Everything"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3><b>Secret #1: Einstein<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When I stumbled onto these Einstein quotes (not sure which are his exact words, but their meaning is obvious ): <\/span><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-122\" src=\"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/we-cannot-solve-our-problems-with-the-same-thinking-einstein-sm.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"700\" height=\"394\" srcset=\"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/we-cannot-solve-our-problems-with-the-same-thinking-einstein-sm.jpg 700w, https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/we-cannot-solve-our-problems-with-the-same-thinking-einstein-sm-300x169.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 700px) 100vw, 700px\" \/><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8220;The thinking it took to get us into this mess is not the same thinking that is going to get us out of it.&#8221; &#8211; Albert Einstein<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This was my first hint that my thinking (not my doing) might be the source of my problem and where I should focus my attention.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>After some self-analysis, I realized my approach to success was based on a belief system<\/strong> (a set of thought patterns) I learned early in life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That belief system was based on hard work and dedication, and <strong>it led to my success in high school, college, and the first half of my professional career.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Interestingly, those same thoughts and beliefs are what kept me stuck for almost a decade<\/strong> banging my head against the glass (like the housefly) never breaking through, sentenced to slow incremental progress\u2014<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>disproportionately small results compared to the effort.<\/strong> \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong>The First Law of Holes: &#8220;If you find yourself in a hole, stop digging.&#8221;<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So the first thing I did was to STOP!!!<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>I stopped the doing doing doing and started to focus on figuring out what was flawed with my thinking and belief system or what else might be missing<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This lead to the discovery of the second secret.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>Secret #2:\u00a0<\/b><b>Dr. Stephen Covey&#8217;s &#8211; Habit 2 &#8211; Begin with the End in Mind<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you have not read the book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Do yourself a favor, buy\u00a0it and read it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-129\" src=\"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/begin-with-the-end-in-mind.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"600\" height=\"470\" srcset=\"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/begin-with-the-end-in-mind.jpg 600w, https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/begin-with-the-end-in-mind-300x235.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 600px) 100vw, 600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When I read Habit #2 I was immediately struck by the following:<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8220;To begin with the end in mind means to start with a clear understanding of your destination. It means to know where you\u2019re going so that you better understand where you are now and so that the steps you take are always in the right direction.&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8220;It\u2019s incredibly easy to get caught up in an activity trap, in the busyness of life, to work harder and harder at climbing the ladder of success only to discover it\u2019s leaning against the wrong wall. It is possible to be busy\u2014very busy\u2014without being very effective.&#8221; &#8211; Stephen Covey<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Wow!! It can&#8217;t get more profound than that&#8230; right?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This was eye-opening stuff for me. I began to see where I was going wrong. <\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For starters, I had no clear destination\u00a0of where I was headed. Not just in my career but in my life. <\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I had a vague sense of what I consider my core values, you know things like: <strong>Freedom, Family, Success, Influence, Recognition, Wealth, Happiness.\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n<li>But I could not clearly articulate to myself or anyone else for that matter: W<span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><em><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">here do I want my career and life to end up?\u00a0<\/span><\/em><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Sure, I was doing a lot of stuff but to what end? If I did not know the destination I was targeting how will I ever reach there?<\/p>\n<p>Just when I thought it couldn&#8217;t get more profound, Covey hit with this:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<h3><strong>All Things Are Created Twice:<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cBegin with the end in mind\u201d is based on the principle that all things are created twice. There\u2019s a <strong>mental or first creation<\/strong>, and a <strong>physical or second creation<\/strong>, to all things.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To the extent to which we understand the principle of two creations and accept the responsibility for both, we act within and enlarge the borders of our Circle of Influence. To the extent to which we do not operate in harmony with this principle and do not take charge of the first creation, we diminish it.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>That all but sealed the deal in my mind.<\/p>\n<p>That was a Big Revelation.<\/p>\n<p>I was busy all of my professional life focused on taking charge of the Physical or Second creation all the while ignoring the responsibility of the Mental or First Creation.<\/p>\n<p>I was not consciously aware that there was a First Creation until Dr. Covey explained it above.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8220;Begin with the end in mind&#8221; is first and foremost what I&#8217;ve come to call an <strong>&#8220;Inside First Concept or Principle<\/strong>&#8220;\u2014It starts within, with me, with the First Creation (mental). <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This was the first step towards me developing a new concept of myself.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Of Who I Am.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And i<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t formed the basis for what evolved into what I now call my <strong>Success Framework<\/strong>.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Before this revelation, I was living an <strong>Outside First <\/strong>life. Reacting to what I was experiencing vs. consciously and deliberating deciding what I want and first creating it mentally (beginning with the end in mind).\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I had unknowingly surrendered all my power to the Outside (other people). And the Outside dictated almost all aspects of my life especially my career. Hence my results or lack thereof.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">My attention was focused all on the physical and at the micro level, on my work tasks, projects, and the company\u2019s goals, instead of MY Destination, MY Core Values, and MY Life Goals.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And as a result, life was unfolding for me not by MY Design but by Default. Here is how Dr. Covey summed this up:<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It\u2019s a principle that all things are created twice, but not all first creations are by conscious design. In our personal lives, if we do not develop our own self-awareness and do not become responsible for first creations, we empower other people and circumstances outside our Circle of Influence to shape much of our lives by default. We reactively live the scripts handed to us by family, associates, other people\u2019s agendas, the pressures of circumstance\u2014scripts from our earlier years, from our training, our conditioning.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Shortly after I changed my thinking (Einstein) and begun to live Habit #2 especially the principle that all things are created twice, first mentally, and second physically. EVERYTHING started to fall into place.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I never begin a Journey without first clearly creating the destination in my mind&#8217;s eye. Only then does the action part, the doing and what we refer as hard work matters.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whenever I fell off the wagon and went back to my old Outside First ways, my results suffered. I always either took the wrong actions or abandon my plans prematurely. When I did have some success, it will be short-lived. I always seem to fall back to where I started. It was frustrating as hell.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8220;Yes, yes that\u2019s what\u2019s been happening to me,&#8221; said Carl.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I can see the wheels turning in his head. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8220;So did your Inside Out, Success Framework help you get into your VP role with your company?&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8220;Absolutely,&#8221; I replied. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8220;And not only that&#8230;but everything I have achieved over the last eight yrs or failed to achieve is the direct result of my application or lack of application of these Inside First principles&#8221;.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8220;Carl, if you decide to press forward and commit to your goals, the most immediate being an elevation in your career, i.e., become a Director of Tech. Then you can use these Inside Out principles to help you win&#8221;.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8220;Yes, that\u2019s what I want. Will you help me?&#8221; said Carl.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And so it began.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/the-goal\/\">Continue Reading&gt;&gt;&gt;<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Secret #1: Einstein When I stumbled onto these Einstein quotes (not sure which are his exact words, but their meaning is obvious ): &#8220;The thinking it took to get us into this mess is not the same thinking that is going to get us out of it.&#8221; &#8211; Albert Einstein This was my first hint that my thinking (not my doing) might be the source of my problem and where I should focus my attention. After some self-analysis, I realized &#8230; <\/p>\n<p class=\"read-more-container\"><a title=\"PART 5: The Secrets That Changed Everything\" class=\"read-more button\" href=\"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/the-secret-that-changed-everything-p6\/#more-17\">Read More<span class=\"screen-reader-text\">PART 5: The Secrets That Changed Everything<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"generate_page_header":""},"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v18.0 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>PART 5: The Secrets That Changed Everything - Rethinking Your Job<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/the-secret-that-changed-everything-p6\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"PART 5: The Secrets That Changed Everything - Rethinking Your Job\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Secret #1: Einstein When I stumbled onto these Einstein quotes (not sure which are his exact words, but their meaning is obvious ): &#8220;The thinking it took to get us into this mess is not the same thinking that is going to get us out of it.&#8221; &#8211; Albert Einstein This was my first hint that my thinking (not my doing) might be the source of my problem and where I should focus my attention. After some self-analysis, I realized ... Read MorePART 5: The Secrets That Changed Everything\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/the-secret-that-changed-everything-p6\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Rethinking Your Job\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:modified_time\" content=\"2018-04-29T20:35:11+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/we-cannot-solve-our-problems-with-the-same-thinking-einstein-sm.jpg\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"6 minutes\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\/\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/\",\"name\":\"Rethinking Your Job\",\"description\":\"Stories that help you put your career in the right perspective. Understand why you are not succeeding fast enough. Strategies you can use to reset your career and start winning\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":\"required name=search_term_string\"}],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\"},{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/the-secret-that-changed-everything-p6\/#primaryimage\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/we-cannot-solve-our-problems-with-the-same-thinking-einstein-sm.jpg\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/we-cannot-solve-our-problems-with-the-same-thinking-einstein-sm.jpg\",\"width\":700,\"height\":394},{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/the-secret-that-changed-everything-p6\/#webpage\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/the-secret-that-changed-everything-p6\/\",\"name\":\"PART 5: The Secrets That Changed Everything - Rethinking Your Job\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/#website\"},\"primaryImageOfPage\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/the-secret-that-changed-everything-p6\/#primaryimage\"},\"datePublished\":\"2018-04-08T20:59:38+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2018-04-29T20:35:11+00:00\",\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/the-secret-that-changed-everything-p6\/#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/the-secret-that-changed-everything-p6\/\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/the-secret-that-changed-everything-p6\/#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Home\",\"item\":\"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"PART 5: The Secrets That Changed Everything\"}]}]}<\/script>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"PART 5: The Secrets That Changed Everything - Rethinking Your Job","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/the-secret-that-changed-everything-p6\/","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"PART 5: The Secrets That Changed Everything - Rethinking Your Job","og_description":"Secret #1: Einstein When I stumbled onto these Einstein quotes (not sure which are his exact words, but their meaning is obvious ): &#8220;The thinking it took to get us into this mess is not the same thinking that is going to get us out of it.&#8221; &#8211; Albert Einstein This was my first hint that my thinking (not my doing) might be the source of my problem and where I should focus my attention. After some self-analysis, I realized ... Read MorePART 5: The Secrets That Changed Everything","og_url":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/the-secret-that-changed-everything-p6\/","og_site_name":"Rethinking Your Job","article_modified_time":"2018-04-29T20:35:11+00:00","og_image":[{"url":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/we-cannot-solve-our-problems-with-the-same-thinking-einstein-sm.jpg"}],"twitter_card":"summary_large_image","twitter_misc":{"Est. reading time":"6 minutes"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/#website","url":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/","name":"Rethinking Your Job","description":"Stories that help you put your career in the right perspective. Understand why you are not succeeding fast enough. Strategies you can use to reset your career and start winning","potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":"required name=search_term_string"}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/the-secret-that-changed-everything-p6\/#primaryimage","inLanguage":"en-US","url":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/we-cannot-solve-our-problems-with-the-same-thinking-einstein-sm.jpg","contentUrl":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/we-cannot-solve-our-problems-with-the-same-thinking-einstein-sm.jpg","width":700,"height":394},{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/the-secret-that-changed-everything-p6\/#webpage","url":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/the-secret-that-changed-everything-p6\/","name":"PART 5: The Secrets That Changed Everything - Rethinking Your Job","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/#website"},"primaryImageOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/the-secret-that-changed-everything-p6\/#primaryimage"},"datePublished":"2018-04-08T20:59:38+00:00","dateModified":"2018-04-29T20:35:11+00:00","breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/the-secret-that-changed-everything-p6\/#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/the-secret-that-changed-everything-p6\/"]}]},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/the-secret-that-changed-everything-p6\/#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"PART 5: The Secrets That Changed Everything"}]}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/17"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=17"}],"version-history":[{"count":13,"href":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/17\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":132,"href":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/17\/revisions\/132"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/rethinkingyourjob.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=17"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}